Indianapolis

We had an appointment in Indianapolis on Sunday morning and the kids were off school today, so we decided to spend the night in Indiana and have some fun.

The weather on Sunday was cold, rainy and windy, so our plans to explore downtown on foot were largely foiled.  We made one single stop at the new Peyton Manning statue in front of the Colts stadium and then retreated to our hotel room for some rest.  The front desk staff had upgraded us to a corner king room on the 16th floor that overlooked the Indiana State House and the Repertory Theater.  Later in the day we ventured out one more time to meet friends for dinner.

Before bed, we had a swim.  Rex doesn't look it in this photo, but he was so happy in the water.

After a good night's rest, we had breakfast at a little coffee shop.  Emilia had oatmeal which she always calls curds and, consequently, she asked us to recite Little Miss Muffet several times.

On our way to the Rhythm Discovery Center, we saw a homeless woman in the street asking for money.  I think this was Ella's first experience with such a situation and in typical Ella fashion, she asked me about it right away.  She'd had $1.25 in her coat pocket all weekend and ended up dropping it all into the woman's bucket.

The Rhythm Discovery Center is a neat place to explore all things percussion. It was described online as a perfect destination for people who like to hit things.  Since this fits the bill with our kids, we ventured there and were not disappointed.  The whole exhibit is super hands on and we had a great time trying out a large number of percussion instruments.

Ella in front of the Pacific Island Slit Drum

Drumming with my boy

After lots of banging and clanking and learning about how drums work and seeing instruments new and old, we decided it was time to go home.  Thanks, Indianapolis, for a great little getaway.

Apple Butter

This

plus this

plus crock pot heat equals

delicious apple butter 

approved by four out of five eaters in this family.

Emilia Is Eight

My baby girl is eight!  Wait, what?

Sometimes it feels like Emilia gets a little short-changed on her birthday which follows a string of back to back annual events in our lives, so this year I decided to take extra special care with her party.  I kept the guest list very small (family and her best friends only) because large groups can stress her out.  I prepared only foods that she likes and can eat (so often at parties Emilia's food allergies prevent her from enjoying what everyone else is having) and we hired a musician to play her favorite songs.  I had it all worked out, but could not change the unseasonably hot temperatures which plagued our guests and us at this outdoor party.  Nonetheless, I believe Emilia enjoyed her celebration surrounded by those who love her.

Happy birthday, sweet Emilia!

You're the bringer of joy, innocence, and laughter,

The giver of endless love from a pure and strong heart.

You keep slaying the beasts of your past that still come to haunt you

And bravely moving forward.

You're growing and learning 
on your own terms and in your own time.

Daddy and I rejoice at having you as our daughter.

We love you forever and ever and ever.

IAC Results 403- 405

The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 403 which was held on August 3, 2017:

1) Spanish dossier from July 2011 referred a female child aged 4 years

2) Norwegian dossier from September 2011 referred a male child aged 2 years and 4 months

3) Danish dossier from November 2011 referred a male child aged 2 years and 2 months with features in health status

4) Italian dossier from November 2013 referred a female child aged 1 year and 11 months with features in health status

5) French dossier from July 2014 referred a male child aged 1 year and 5 months with features in health status and a family history

6) Italian dossier from January 2016 referred a male child aged 10 years and 8 months with features in health status

7) Italian dossier from March 2016 referred a female child aged 11

8) US dossier from July 2017 referred a female child aged 15 years and 5 months

9) US dossier from July 2017 referred two waiting children (#676 & #2704) with profiles on the MOJ site

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The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 404 which was held on August 17, 2017:

1) Norwegian dossier from November 2011 referred a male child aged 2 years and 1 month

2) Spanish dossier from December 2011 referred a male child aged 2 years and 7 months with features in health status

3) French dossier from March 2013 referred a male child aged 1 year and 7 months with a family history

4) French dossier from March 2013 referred a male child aged 1 year and 7 months with features in health status and a family history

5) Italian dossier from September 2014 referred a male child aged 9 years and 2 months

6) Italian dossier from October 2016 referred a male child aged 10 years and 5 month with features in health status

7) US dossier from August 2017 referred four waiting children (#2958 & #2959 & #2990 & # 2991) with profiles on the MOJ site

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The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 405 which was held on August 24, 2017:

1) Norwegian dossier from November 2011 referred a female child aged 1 year and 10 months

2) Norwegian dossier from November 2011 referred a male child aged 1 year and 4 months

3) Dutch dossier from November 2011 referred a female child aged 11 months and 18 days with features in health status

4) French dossier from June 2013 referred a male child aged 8 years and 3 months with features in health status

5) US dossier from March 2015 referred a male child aged 8 years and 5 months with feature sin health status and a family history

6) US dossier from July 2015 referred a male child aged 1 year and 10 months with features in health status

7) French dossier from March 2017 referred a male child aged 10 years and 11 months with a family history

8) US dossier from April 2017 referred a female child aged 1 year and 8 months with features in health status and a family history

9) US dossier from August 2017 referred two waiting children (#3141 & #3159) with profiles on the MOJ site

10) US dossier from August 2017 referred a waiting child (#2008) with a profile on the MOJ site

11) US dossier from August 2017 referred a waiting child (#3219) with a profile on the MOJ site

12) US dossier from August 2017 referred two waiting children (#3371 & #3384) with profiles on the MOJ site

Ella's Together Forever Day #3

On October 8, 2014 we took Ella from the only home she'd ever known, an orphanage in Gyumri, Armenia, and she joined our family at six years old.  It's been three years of ups and downs that have felt like two steps forward and one step back in many ways.  We're still struggling with a variety of post-orphanage behaviors in a child that is becoming increasingly educated and independent.

passport photo October 9, 2014

I'd like to be able to say that yesterday was a happy and celebratory occasion, but it was not.  Ella may be one of the adoptees whose trauma flares up around anniversaries such as this and whose behavior deteriorates as a response.  But Ella's smart enough to be aware of all of the dates that are significant in her life's journey, so it's practically impossible to skip Together Forever Day to circumvent some of the challenges.  Instead, we work through it which is harder, but probably healthier for Ella in the long run.

As always, Ella requested an Armenian culinary treat for her special day.  After pouring over two Armenian cookbooks, she settled once again on a sweet bread called gata which I baked for her.

Happy Together Forever Day, Ella!

Daddy and I are fully committed to you and our family.

Adoption is a marathon, not a sprint,

and we're in it for the long haul right by your side.

Precious daughter, we love you.

Donut Day

Twice a year, our elementary school offers a free breakfast to the families whose children attend there.  It's a lot of fun for the kids, so we try to be a part of it.

This year, we saw so much progress in Rex and Emilia.  Both were able to remain seated at the table with their food rather than run through the cafeteria like wild.  Emilia was greeted by friends and returned the greetings.  She recognizes many people at the school and addresses them by name.  It's so rewarding to witness the small successes of our two younger children.

Ella was excited to see some of her friends and enjoyed breakfast with her school bestie.

A Weekend Away

Last weekend, we met up with another adoptive family in the Ohiopyle area of Pennsylvania.  It was a great opportunity to spend time with my dear friend R and allow Ella to keep connected with her Armenian friend M.  The girls were group mates in Gyumri and definitely remember each other.

We rented a house surrounded by woods and a pond and had a very relaxing, leisurely few days with lots of campfires, games, movies, walks, good meals, and conversation.  There was practically no internet access, so we were really able to unplug from the daily grind.

Balloon fights

Roasted marshmallows at 10:00 am - and why not?

She gave us a huge scare on this trip, but thankfully she is okay

Ready for the long-awaited sleepovers

We've only been home for two days and I already miss my friend.  Can't wait to see her and her little family again next year.