Friday, July 31, 2015

A Fantastic Resource

I am in the process of compiling an informational packet for Emilia's new teachers and therapists, sharing some of her background and the effects it has had on her overall development, behavior, and personality.  I came across this fantastic resource that I am going to include in the packet for the Kindergarten team:

http://nc.casaforchildren.org/files/public/site/conference/ho2013/e-healachild.pdf

I printed this information out and highlighted parts applicable to Emilia as well as wrote notes in the margins.  This is a pretty comprehensive, yet concise presentation that covers everything from changes in the brain structure of institutionalized children, to RAD and other attachment issues, to the effects of nutritional deficiencies, depression, PTSD, etc.  I hope it will help her educators understand her better and provide more appropriate services.

*Just found another one which is kind of like Emilia in a nutshell:
http://pro.psychcentral.com/trauma-sensory-integration-the-egg-the-chicken/008673.html

Thursday, July 30, 2015

Picture Of The Day

IAC 321 & 322 & 323 Results

The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 321 which was held on June 4, 2015:

1) Italian dossier from August 2013 referred a male child aged 8 years and 8 months with features in health status

2) French dossier from November 2013 referred a female child aged 2 years and 8 months with features in health status and a family history

3) German dossier from September 2014 referred a female child aged 8 years and 3 months with features in health status

4) US dossier from February 2015 referred a male child aged 10 years and 9 months

5) US dossier from May 2015 referred a waiting child (#2622) with a profile on the MOJ site

6) US dossier from June 2015 referred two waiting children (#2682 & #2686) with profiles on the MOJ site

7) US dossier from June 2015 referred a waiting child (#2780) with a profile on the MOJ site

8) US dossier from June 2015 referred a waiting child (#2767) with a profile on the MOJ site

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The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 322 which was held on June 11, 2015:

1) Spanish dossier from October 2010 referred a female child aged 1 year and 4 months

2) Spanish dossier from February 2012 referred a waiting child (#2866) with a profile on the MOJ site

3) Irish dossier from July 2012 referred a male child aged 6 years and 9 months with features in health status

4) French dossier from August 2013 referred a female child aged 2 year and 3 months with features in health status and a family history

5) Italian dossier from April 2014 referred a female child aged 7 years and 6  months with features in health status

6) US dossier from October 2014 referred a male child aged 1 year and 6 months with features in health status

7) French dossier from February 2015 referred a male child aged 3 years and 9 months with features in health status and a family history

8) US dossier from March 2015 referred a male child aged 1 year and 7 months with features in health status

9) US dossier from April 2015 referred a waiting child (#2782) with a profile on the MOJ site

10) US dossier from June 2015 referred a waiting child (#2360) with a profile on the MOJ site

11) US dossier from April 2015 referred a waiting child (#2282) with a profile on the MOJ site

12) US dossier from April 2015 referred a waiting child (#2755) with a profile on the MOJ site

13) US dossier from April 2015 referred a waiting child (#2641) with a profile on the MOJ site

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The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 323 which was held on June 25, 2015:

1) Italian dossier from October 2010 referred a female child aged 7 years and 9 months

2) German dossier from December 2010 referred a male child aged 1 year and 7 months with features in health status

3) German dossier from December 2010 referred a female child aged 1 year and 10 months with features in health status

4) US dossier from December 2012 referred a female child aged 1 year and 7 months with a family history

5) US dossier from July 2014 referred a brother and sister aged 8 years and 1 month & 6 years and 4 months with features in health status

6) US dossier from January 2015 referred a waiting child (#2839) with a profile on the MOJ site

7) US dossier from April 2015 referred a male child aged 2 years and 10 months with features in health status

8) US dossier from May 2015 referred a waiting child (#2806) with a profile on the MOJ site

9) Canadian dossier from June 2015 referred a female child aged 1 year and 10 months with features in health status

10)  US dossier from June 2015 referred a waiting child (#2738) with a profile on the MOJ site

11) US dossier from June 2015 referred a waiting child (#2443) with a profile on the MOJ site

12) US dossier from June 2015 referred a waiting child (#2206) with a profile on the MOJ site

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Reading Rocks!

Per her own initiation, Emilia and I have begun to study sight words (Dolch pre-primer list) and in the course of two weeks, she has learned to recognize ten words.  Most amazingly, it seems she only needs to be exposed to the word one time and she retains it.

Here are two videos from this morning.  She usually likes to keep her smarts under her hat, so it's not easy to get her to show off for the camera.



Emilia's expressive language also absolutely continues to grow.  She is confidently using the contraction "it's" now and has begun answering some questions with "yes."

Awesome sentences we have heard lately included, "Bless you", "I want inside.  Too hot sun", "Daddy come with me", (while reading The Giving Tree) "It's nice.  I wanna sit in tree", and (on the swing) "I wanna go faster."

Sunday, July 26, 2015

Ella Nine Months Home

Well, I can hardly believe I just typed that title to this blog post.  Can nine months really have passed already since Ella set foot on US soil?  The calendar says yes.

For all of July Ella is in summer school and I am so glad we signed her up. I am quite pleased with the work the class has completed and know that it has helped Ella solidify her basic skills.  Her summer teacher sent me an email mid-month and said, "Ella is an amazing girl, and I am very impressed with what she has accomplished in the short time she has been in this country.  I know that she has come a long way, thanks to her parents and to her teachers, Mrs. H. and Mrs. O."  And Ella's summer bus driver told me, "I just love her. She's such a fresh ray of sunshine."  Ella also had a follow-up with our IA Clinic and the written report we received from the team there afterward described her language acquisition as "remarkable" and noted that she "speaks English fluently."



We are still doing academic work at home as well.  Sight words continue to be a focus and Ella is up to recognizing over 60 now, nearly a third of the Dolch words she is supposed to acquire by the end of third grade.  We have also been working on counting to 100 and on recognizing/naming money and understanding its value.  Ella will begin receiving an allowance when she turns seven, so we knew this was an area we had to address now.

Physically, Ella is doing well.  She has gained height (+3 cm), but no weight, so that's being monitored. She is very active and loves to ride her bike with training wheels, despite the challenge this presents for her, and swim in the pool.  She had a check-up with her orthopedist and continues to have no restrictions from movement or weight bearing.  As we expected, she is not a candidate for orthopedic surgery and the doctor actually believes that surgery would do more harm than good.  He predicts that Ella will have nearly full, life-long mobility and that her body will naturally accommodate for the limb differences, as it has been for the past seven years.  Her estimated adult height is 130 cm.  We also asked for a referral to a hand surgeon to see if Ella's mobility and function in her non-dominant hand can be improved further, so we shall see.



Our biggest issue with Ella continues to be obedience.  She does not disobey on any major matters whatsoever, but continues to have trouble with the small daily things.  For example, we usually have to tell her multiple times to pick up her clothes or to turn down the volume on her Kindle.  I know it's so minor, but we realize that her obedience in these small respects is the precursor to her obedience with bigger issues in the future.  So, we repeatedly stress the importance of obedience as a vehicle to learning and being safe and to impose consequences for what we call bad listening skills with Ella's least favorite being going to bed early when her sibs get to still stay up.  We tell her that her brain must be too tired to listen and follow instructions and an early bedtime is necessary to help her brain rest and think.

Another area of focus is pressure grading for physical touch.  Ella can be a little rough in that department, so we are doing some easy sensory/OT activities at home to give her a better feel for her own body in relation to others.  I certainly love the affection from my little girl and she loves to give it, but I would be happy if this wasn't accompanied by as many unintentional ouchies for the recipients.

We continue to have frequent contact with Ella's birth family in Armenia.  I believe this has been a very positive experience for Ella.  She understands more and more of her story and owns it with confidence.  When classmates at school asked her this month where she got her necklace, she told them it was a gift from her birth mother and then, as her teacher told me, explained that a birth mother is "the mom where I was in her tummy before I was born."



All in all, Ella is doing super duper, as she likes to say, and we are so lucky to have her in our family.

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Picture Of The Day

Our girls completed their summer reading program through the local library.  We're proud of their dedication to reading over the last two months.


Friday, July 17, 2015

Photo Of The Day

When you work hard and play hard, 
it's okay to just pass out cold sometimes:

Let him sleep... for when he wakes, he will move mountains. - Napoleon Bonaparte

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Together Forever Day 2015


Dear Rex,

Four years ago, with you in our arms, we walked through the blue gates of your orphanage one final time.  From that moment on, everything changed.



The last four years with you as our son have sent us high and low, stretched us further than we ever thought we could endure, and blessed us beyond measure.  You, then a toddler and now a preschooler and soon to be a kindergartener, are the master teacher in our life.  You bring us daily lessons in acceptance, patience, courage, trust, gratitude, surrender, and joy.

The people who truly know you, those who meet you with wide open hearts and minds, quickly come to love you.  Your laughter is infectious, your smile most genuine, your spirit a little mischievous, your feelings straight-forward, your work ethic true.  You have to push yourself more than most kids to learn and grow.  And this past year, you've come so far.  You started using a few words, things that are important to you: pop, bubble, ball, balloon, up, car, cracker and added new signs to your repertoire, too.  You learned how to undress, how to play with some toys, how to give kisses, how to sleep in your own room, how to pet dogs.  You lost four teeth and gained two scars on your head.

You are an expert climber, rough-houser and escape artist with parkour aspirations, a connoisseur of potato chips and sandwiches, an aficionado of music, silly sounds, tickles, water, swings, and thrill rides.  Above all, you are a devoted son whose love for us is pure without an agenda, without judgment.  There's no need to read between the lines when, instead of a left into yours, you make a right into our bedroom at night to request a co-sleep, when you squeal at seeing our faces at the end of your school day, when you cling to us during frightening situations, when you wordlessly lean on our shoulders, and when you just don't care where in the world your head hits the pillow at night so long as Daddy and I are there with you.

Rex, no matter what things might seem to others from the outside looking in, from right here in the thick of life with you, we want you to know that you are a miracle, a blessing and a treasure.  We love you.  Happy Together Forever Day,

Mama & Daddy

Sunday, July 12, 2015

The Week In Review

I don't know why this week turned out to be such a struggle for Craig and me, but here we are on Sunday night, still breathing, but barely hanging on.  The weather in our area has been super rainy and unseasonably cool for several weeks now which has affected our activities and enjoyment of what should be summer.  The dreary wet days have kept us inside too much with books and TV and lots of restless energy.

My current view

Ella started summer school this week and had a good time, I think.  We opted to send her into a classroom with a different teacher than she had for Kindergarten to allow her to be exposed to a new setting and teaching style in preparation for first grade.  Her summer school class has eight children and two teachers, so a great ratio for intensive learning.  I have been impressed with the work sheets that Ella has been bringing home and with the activities she describes from her hours in class.

Ella and I also made a plan for a new morning routine to be used on school days.  We talked about it a lot and I was in process of making her a visual chart for it, but it turned out this week, Ella doesn't need a chart.  With few reminders, she now works through the following steps by herself: make bed, fold pajamas onto bed, have breakfast, fix hair, brush teeth, put on shoes, locate backpack.  Any time left before the bus comes after completing this routine is hers to spend as she wishes.

Happy to have received a batch of fresh lavash
directly from Yerevan

With Ella at school, Emilia and I did a bit of preschool work to review for her Kindergarten year.  Upon initial trial, Emilia can still identify and name 24 out of 26 upper case letters and 21 out of 26 lower case letters.  She can, surprisingly, also count to 20.  Last I checked she could go to about 13, so she picked up the other numbers somehow.  Emilia and I also started another round of potty training.  She always does so well at home, but usually doesn't carry her skills to elsewhere.  In any case, we only had a few accidents this week and, best of all, Emilia went #2 on the toilet for the first time (and second time and third time), something she previously completely refused.  I know she's perfectly capable, but not altogether willing.

Emilia helped me with some preparations
for next year's Bulgarian reunion

Emilia also had a check-up with our new pediatric dentist.  While it was still super scary for her and she did not like it one bit, she did much better than ever before.  I feel like having a pediatric dentist is helpful in this regard.  And good news: no cavities for our little girl.  She was offered to choose a prize and she told the dentist, "I want gloves."  Silly girl loves those medical gloves and fortunately, the dentist obliged.

Other than that, Craig's been crazy busy at his job and I have been doing the mandatory load of house work.  At one point in the week, Craig and I were so exhausted that we literally missed one of Rex's therapy appointments and looked at each other in confusion when we got an email from the therapist wondering where we were.  As the boy says in the famous youtube video, "Is this real life?"  Yes, it is.

Enjoying a dry evening outside before bedtime

I managed to schedule a family photo shoot for late summer when we will have the five weeks of the year where all three of my kids are different ages.  My plan is to try to have our pictures taken in that time frame each year, so I can always tell the kids things like, "Here you were five, six and seven years old."  We also got the girls a used bike with training wheels and they are both able to ride it, though it is a struggle for Ella, but she is nothing if not determined to make her body work for her.  Now we're on the lookout for a second bike, so both girls can ride at the same time.

The absolute highlight of the week was Rex telling Craig and me he loves us in the unique, deliberate, and unmistakable way he has chosen to express this feeling without words.

Saturday, July 11, 2015

Saturday Steals

Those of you who know me in person are aware that I like a good bargain.  So today I ventured out to my favorite clothing clearance center to see what was on tap, so to speak.  You can't shop at this place wanting to purchase a specific item.  Instead, you have to go with the flow of what they have that day.

Today, I found two pairs of pants, two pairs of shoes, 18 pairs of socks (much needed), two short sleeved shirts and six long sleeved shirts for $126 and a few cents. Most of the socks did not have their original prices on them, but the pants, shoes, and all but three of the tops did.  Adding those original prices up comes to $295.  I think the three sweaters that didn't have their retail prices on them along with the socks would have cost at least $125 together at the mall, so I probably got $420 worth of merchandise today for a quarter of the cost.  I call that a good deal and an improvement to my fall and winter wardrobe.

My loot

Monday, July 6, 2015

Home School June Week 4

This was our last week of intense home school for the summer. I cannot believe how quickly June went by.  My mom has come and gone and some of summer's highlights are already behind us now, too.

Our theme for this week was Trees and Ella did a great job.  She learned the difference between broadleaf and evergreen trees, was introduced to the concept of oxygen and how trees make it for us, acquired new tree related vocab (bark, limb, needle, palm, etc.) and gave some thought to all the resources we gather from trees, including all the things made from wood in our daily life.  Since it was timely, we also threw in some Fourth of July books and worksheets.  Ella was super excited about America's birthday and kept saying, "America is free now."



Ella mastered 12 new sight words, bringing her total to 49.  At the end of the school year, her teacher gave a me a list of 42 First Grade Dolch sight words.  Ella can now read 26 of them.  Her other sight words are from the Dolch pre-primer and primer sets.  In addition, Ella (and Emilia) earned their second level prizes in our library's summer reader program.  They each have to read just four more books by July 31 to be declared Super Summer Readers.  Among our literary selections, Ella especially enjoyed The Story of America's Birthday and The Giving Tree. Even though our tree themed week is over, she brought the latter book to me this afternoon and said, "Can we read this again?  I am still interested."  After reading the book once more I asked, "Why do you think the tree always helps the boy and almost gives up her whole self for him?"  Ella answered, "Because she loves him so much."

Even though home school as such has come to a close for this summer, we will continue to work on reading and sight words every weekday afternoon and on math every weekend until Ella begins first grade in August.  I also have a few ideas for some additional topics and concepts which we will address in a less formal setting.

Our sight word wall before the change-over last night

Today Ella got on the school bus bright and early at 7:15 and started attending summer school.  She's signed up for the two hour reading and the two hour math sessions through July 31.  She arrives back at home just after noon, in time for lunch, naps and afternoon fun.

Friday, July 3, 2015

Bulgarian Adoption Reunion 2015

This year we attended the fifth annual Bulgarian Adoption Reunion in Ohio.  I continue to be one of two organizers, so the event is a big milestone for us each year.  We were excited to welcome 27 families with 120 or so people and more than two dozen Bulgarian adoptees.  Craig and I are always looking forward to spending time with many folks who have become friends over the years.

Here are some photos from the weekend:

Performance of Bulgarian folk dances

Emilia got on someone's bike one night and started riding -
first time ever.

Emilia's close-up look at a snake
during our visit to Parky's Farm
Some of our group checking out the calf
(Ella's in the red sweater and pink shoes)

Fun in the giant play barn

More play barn action

Climbin' sibs

Rex doing the bungy activity

Ella doing the bungy

 Upside down playground fun

We all had a wonderful time and are looking forward to the 2016 reunion weekend already.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

IAC 320 Results

*Please also read this blog post by a fellow adoptive mom regarding MOJ statistic on BG referrals: https://bulgariatomaineadoption.wordpress.com/2015/06/24/iac-319-and-moj-statistics/

The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 320 which was held on May 21, 2015:

1) German dossier from February 2011 referred a male child aged 1 year and 5 months with features in health status

2) US dossier from December 2011 referred two waiting children (#2458 & #2459) with profiles on the MOJ site

3) Italian dossier from May 2012 referred a male child aged 3 years with features in health status

4) Canadian dossier from January 2014 referred a male child aged 2 years with features in health status

5) US dossier from April 2014 referred a male child aged 1 year and 7 months with features in health status and a family history

6) US dossier from May 2014 referred a female child aged 1 year and 7 months with features in health status and a family history

7) US dossier from July 2014 referred a brother and sister aged 1 year and 6 months &  4 years and 4 months with features in health status and a family history

8) US dossier from September 2014 referred twin sisters aged 3 years with features in health status

9) US dossier from February 2015 referred three children, male and female, aged 4 years & 7 years and 2 months & 5 years and 8 months with features in health status

10) US dossier from May 2015 referred a waiting child (#2441) with a profile on the MOJ site

11)  US dossier from May 2015 referred a waiting child (#2120) with a profile on the MOJ site

12)  US dossier from May 2015 referred a waiting child (#2697) with a profile on the MOJ site