Friday, May 31, 2013

IAC 253 Results

The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 253 which was held on April 22, 2013:

1) Cyprus dossier from April 2009 referred a male child aged 1 year and 8 months

2) Dutch dossier from January 2010 referred two children, male and female, aged 2 years and 10 months & 5 years and 4 months

3) Spanish dossier from March 2010 referred a female child aged 3 years and 4 months

4) Italian dossier from March 2010 referred a female child aged 3 years and 9 months

5) Spanish dossier from March 2010 referred a male child aged 1 year and 6 months

6) French dossier from November 2010 referred a male child aged 1 year and 7 months with features in health status and a family history

7) German dossier from September 2011 referred a female child aged 3 years and 10 months with features in health status

8) US dossier from January 2013 referred a waiting child (#1977) with a profile on the MOJ site

9) Italian dossier from March 2013 referred a male child aged 9 years and 10 months

10) US dossier from April 2013 referred a waiting child (#1053) with a profile on the MOJ site

11) Italian dossier from April 2013 referred a waiting child (#1954) with a profile on the MOJ site

12) US dossier from April 2013 referred a waiting child (#545) with a profile on the MOJ site

13) US dossier from April 2013 referred three waiting children (#1886 & #1874 & #1888) with profiles on the MOJ site

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Emilia In Numbers

Over the last week or so, we have had a lot of appointments giving us some current information on Emilia.

First, she had a check-up with our family doctor where she was weighed and measured.  She came in at 34 inches tall and 27 pounds heavy.  I don't have 100% confidence in the weight measurement as their scales seemed ill-calibrated, but I am certain that she is at her highest weight ever right now, at least ten pounds above what she was at homecoming.


I asked the doctor to run some blood tests and from those results we learned that Emilia's thyroid is now doing fine.  She is still minimally anemic which is associated with one of her known medical conditions, so we are not worried.  However, the testing also showed that her ferritin levels (the iron stored in her body) are rather low. The normal range is 10-180 and hers is at 20.  The doctor prescribed an iron supplement, but was also supportive of my idea of finding a more natural source of iron.  I scoured the shelves at Whole Foods and bought Gaia Plant Force Liquid Iron which tastes great (like honey and orange) and can easily be given with some orange juice to aid absorption.  So, I am going to try this first before forcing the yucky stuff from the pharmacy.

I also had the childhood food allergy blood panel run again and it revealed that Emilia is still allergic to dairy and possibly egg whites (though I have never seen her have a negative reaction to eggs), but the test showed her as not allergic to peanuts and fish.  I question those results because it seems that every time she has peanut butter, she gets diarrhea and a rash.  I will simply continue to keep peanut products out of her diet and have her retested later with a better test.  I am hoping very much that my suspicions are wrong about a possible fish allergy because Emilia enjoys fish.  I am going to find a good time to experiment at home by feeding her fish again and seeing what happens.

Emilia also had her first mini dental check-up and everything looks good.  All of her teeth have come in, including the molars and there are no visible cavities.  She only had a few teeth at two years old when we brought her home and the doctors wondered.  I guess her body just needed some good nutrition to push those pearly whites out.

Emilia loves watching videos on her Kindle,
anytime, anywhere
Lastly, I signed Emilia's IEP this week.  She qualified for preschool services in our district which I declined, but I accepted an hour of therapy a week which will either be OT, PT, or ST or a co-treat as needed.  Our new K-12 school opens in September and is only a 5 minute drive from our home, so it will be very convenient to take her to and from therapy.

The school's OT, PT, and ST as well as the psychologist went  through the results of their evaluations with me and I was not at all surprised that Emilia scored approximately at the level of an 18 months old child.  This is how long she has been with us and she has been developing on pace since then, but her two orphanage years were a total loss to her which means she was basically starting from scratch in our family.  Her secure skills in fine motor and gross motor are at about 16 months, speech at 18 months, adaptive behavior at 25 months, cognitive at 20 months and social-emotional at 18 months.  She has further scattered skills in all areas of development, some of which reach up to about 30 months.  I think everyone feels confident that she will continue to make good progress.

Of course, I know that none of these numbers define our sweet girl.  They do not reflect her joyful spirit, her affectionate nature, her irresistible laughter, her foot-stomping disagreement, or her tight hugs.  I don't dwell on the numbers, but focus simply on what should come next on Emilia's developmental path.  I relish in the milestones that Emilia has met and enjoy the rewards of parenting her, like hearing her try to sing the e-i-e-i-o part of Old McDonald.  Three months ago, she couldn't speak at all:

(And yes, this is what my house looks like 
at the end of a three day weekend)

Friday, May 24, 2013

Rex's First Field Trip

Around this time two years ago, we received our last update on Rex from Yerevan.  It had been six long months since we'd held him and a court date still was not in sight for us.  Looking at these pictures then made me so sad, but seeing them today breaks my heart even more because I know Rex's personality and expressions now and recognize the tremendous pain, loneliness and frustration he must have been feeling when these photos were taken.





Today, just two short years later, Rex ventured on his first field trip with his classmates, teachers, and a pack of parents at his side.  Watching him enjoy the day, I couldn't help but think of those photos of him in the pink turtleneck and struggled to hold back the tears.  What a difference it has made for this wonderful boy that we found him, were entrusted with his care, and granted the privilege to call him our son.

Rex loved the hayride,
especially when the trees made a roof over our wagon
Rex at Pioneer Village,
building a fire and cooking
Enjoying the giant ball pit
Braving the super fast, long slide

This is the face of adoption, the face of a boy who is loved by his family, the face of a child receiving the best possible care for his medical and developmental needs, the face of happiness.  This is the face that makes my heart sing every single day.


Photo Of The Day

Cousins...


Monday, May 20, 2013

Kitchen News

You know how they say that the kitchen is the best loved room in a house, the place everyone gathers, a great spot for talking and enjoying each others' company?  That's certainly true in our home.  For a long while though, something in my kitchen has been driving me a little nuts... namely the way my kids have been pushing our table around all the time.  So, I came up with a solution and it involved this ledge:



A few hundred dollars, one nice handyman, and a couple of hours of labor later, I now have an immovable kitchen table.  It gives me more surface space than what I had before and it matches our other kitchen counters. I am really happy with how it turned out.  I just have to make a trip to IKEA now to get some chairs, hopefully this weekend.


Have you ever craved a food to the point of salivating just thinking about it?  I wanted tabbouleh for weeks in that way and finally made it for myself.  I used quinoa instead of bulgur because it has more protein and is more nutritious.  Ah, so delicious when this long desired dish finally hit my mouth.


Tomorrow at Rex's school, parents are holding an end of school year lunch for the therapists.  I volunteered to bring a meatless main dish because at least one of the therapists is a vegetarian.  I thought a long time about what to make and finally settled on a quiche.  Kind of cliche, I know, but I thought it would not be too heavy in warmer weather and could be enjoyed cold or reheated in the microwave.  Then I set out to find a better quiche recipe than what I had on hand and discovered a real winner.  I made two test quiches last week, one with onions and spinach, the other with ham and mushrooms.  They were really good with a nice texture that held up over a few days in the fridge and great flavor.  Craig told me it was the best quiche he'd ever had.  Trust me, he would let me know me if it were otherwise, too.  Here's the recipe.  The key is to pre-bake your crust for 7-10 minutes and to pre-fry ingredients like onions, mushrooms and ham.


And that's a wrap for news from the Martini kitchen.

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Emilia's Birth Family Search

About a month ago, I reached out to the Bulgarian adoption community, seeking advice about the possibility of a birth family search.  There were so many holes in Emilia's story which, if possible, Craig and I wanted to fill in sooner rather than later, so that we could share the information with Emilia as appropriate during her years of growing up.

Some families recommended a searcher in Sofia, so we contracted with him to find Emilia's birth family.  Less than three weeks later, yesterday, we received several photos, a video, names, dates, and a lot of additional details about Emilia's history.  Part of it is heartbreaking and will be difficult to explain to Emilia many years from now; other aspects of her story speak of great love paired with painful loss.

There was joy in Emilia's birth relatives' eyes at the sight of her in photos and at the knowledge that she is treasured as our daughter.  For me, it's amazing to recognize my sweet girl in the faces and bodies of her birth family.  Now I know where she got her left stick-out ear, her big feet, the gorgeous tone of her skin and hair, and her beautiful eyes.  I have a better understanding of her family medical history which will be so valuable for Emilia in the future.  Most importantly, now I can be confident I am right when, each night, I whisper into Emilia's ear that she's loved in two mamas' hearts.

Friday, May 17, 2013

IAC 250 & 251 & 252 Results

The following results were issued in IAC Session 250 which was held on March 28, 2013:

1) Canadian dossier from January 2010 referred a female child aged 1 year and 9 months with features in health status

2) French dossier from March 2010 referred a female child aged 2 years and 7 months with features in health status

3) Canadian dossier from March 2010 referred two children, male and female, aged 5 years & 1 month and 6 years and 1 month

4) German dossier from April 2010 referred a male child aged 2 years and 6 months with features in health status

5) US dossier from September 2010 referred a male child aged 2 years and 2 months with features in health status and a family history

6) French dossier from November 2010 referred a male child aged 2 years and 5 months with features in health status

7) German dossier from December 2010 referred a female child aged 3 years and 11 months with features in health status and a family history

8) Italian dossier from December 2010 referred a female child aged 1 year and 9 months with a family history

9) French dossier from February 2011 referred a female child aged 3 years and 8 months with a family history

10) French dossier from April 2011 referred a male child aged 1 year and 11 months with a family history

11) US dossier from March 2012 referred three children, male and female, aged 6 years & 5 months,  5 years & 5, and 3 years & 10 months

12) French dossier from October 2012 referred a waiting child (#2068) with a profile on the MOJ site

13) US dossier from March 2013 referred a waiting child (#1737) with a profile on the MOJ site

14) Canadian dossier from 2013 referred the child of the husband

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The following referrals were issused in IAC Session 251 which was held on April 4, 2013:

1) Greek dossier from July 2009 referred a male child aged 3 years and 9 months

2) Spanish dossier from February 2010 referred a female child aged 1 year and 4 months

3) German dossier from February 2010 referred a female child aged 2 years and 5 months with features in health status

4) French dossier from February 2010 referred a male child aged 2 years and 3 months

5) French dossier from March 2010 referred a male child aged 5 years and 11 months with features in health status

6) German dossier from April 2010 referred a male child aged 2 years and 11 months with features in health status

7) French dossier from May 2010 referred a female child aged 8 years and 4 months

8) German dossier from October 2010 referred a male child aged 2 years and 8 months with features in health status

9) German dossier from February 2011 referred a female child aged 4 years and 2 months with features in health status

10) Italian dossier from November 2011 referred a female child aged 8 years and 2 months

11) Dutch dossier from March 2012 referred a female child aged 1 year and 11 months with features in health status

12) Italian dossier from October 2012 referred three children, male and female, aged 8 years & 3 months, 7 years and 1 month, and 6 years and 1 month

13) US dossier from December 2012 referred a male child, aged 2 years and 2 months, with features in health status and a family history

14) Italian dossier from December 2012 referred a female child aged 9 years and 4 months with features in health status

15) US dossier from December 2012 referred a male child aged 1 year and 9 months with a family history

16) Italian dossier from December 2012 referred a female child aged 8 years and 11 months

17) Italian dossier from March 2013 referred a waiting child (#1777) with a profile on the MOJ site

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The following referrals were issued in IAC Session 252 which was held on April 11, 2013:

1) US dossier from October 2009 referred a female child aged 10 years

2) Spanish dossier from October 2009 referred a male child aged 5 years and 11 months

3) Spanish dossier from January 2010 referred a male child aged 1 year and 10 months

4) Spanish dossier from February 2010 referred a male child aged 3 years and 10 months with features in health status

5) Spanish dossier from February 2010 referred a female child aged 3 years and 2 months

6) Norwegian dossier from March 2010 referred a male child aged 3 years and 1 month

7) Dutch dossier from March 2010 referred a male child aged 5 years and 2 months

8) French dossier from December 2010 referred a male child aged 4 years and 8 months with a family history

9) Italian dossier from January 2012 referred a brother and sister, aged 7 years and 8 years & 8 months

10) US dossier from August 2012 referred a female child aged 9 years and 9 months

11) Italian dossier from March 2013 referred a brother and sister, aged 6 years and 9 years & 2 months

12) Italian dossier from March 2013 referred a brother and sister, aged 10 years & 2 months and 6 years & 3 months

13)  US dossier from April 2013 referred two waiting children (#1936 & #2136) with profiles on the MOJ site

14) Italian dossier from April 2013 referred two waiting children (#1814 & #1815) with profiles on the MOJ site

15) US dossier from April 2013 referred two waiting children (#1697 & #1083) with profiles on the MOJ site

16) US dossier from April 2013 referred two waiting children (#1791 & #1356) with profiles on the MOJ site

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Mother's Day 2013

Even though it is Mother's Day, my day was not much different from any ordinary Sunday.  It started out with my being woken up by Rex who was crawling all over me at 6:00 am when I'd had six hours of sleep, looking me into the one eye I had so painstakingly peeled open to greet him, and then deciding I was not what he wanted.

My day was filled with the routine work of mothers: laundry, vacuuming, kissing boo-boos, cleaning, preparing meals, etc.  For dinner I made a favorite soup, potage crecy.  I've altered the recipe to be dairy free, using olive oil instead of butter and omitting the cream.  I also add a few tablespoons of parsley and mash rather than puree before serving.  It was such a nice Mother's Day gift that everyone enjoyed this soup for dinner, so there was no short order cooking required.


I also made some freezer meals for Emilia.



And I sorted through the piles of clothes that the kids have outgrown.  Some will be donated, others will be passed on to friends.  This large box is going to our Ms. Rie and her sweet little boy.


Craig gifted me with his time and talents today by completing a few jobs on the honey do list and as well as by taking care of tasks that I hadn't asked him to do.  There's no surprise like opening the door to a spotless microwave, for example.  Craig also hung this painting we bought from a street artist in Yerevan... just a shade under two years for that project to be completed.


Maybe the truth of Mother's Day is that, just like any day, it's not really about me, but about the ones who made me a mother, the treasures entrusted to my care, the little beings who make mothering simultaneously so challenging and so rewarding.


Happy Mother's Day to all mothers: bio moms, foster moms, birth moms, step moms, adoptive moms, moms-in-law, moms to be, waiting moms...

Happy Mother's Day to some of you who have been especially in my thoughts today: Beth, Marriya, Mary, Jenni, Molly, and Cherie.  I am so lucky to know moms like you.


O the mother's joys!
The watching, the endurance, the precious love, the anguish, 
the 
patiently yielded life.

Walt Whitman

Thursday, May 9, 2013

100,000

Sometime overnight my blog passed 100,000 views which is a little mind-boggling to me.  I know I have 81 followers, but there must be many more people who stop by here occasionally.  Thank you for following our journey as it unfolds one day at a time.

Now, I have a burning question and I promised myself I would ask it once I'd had 100,000 hits:  lifeisgood, who are you?  Do we know each other?  You always leave the nicest, most encouraging comments.  I'd just like to know you.

*lifeisgood has revealed her identity.  It is someone I have known for a while, but that I never would have guessed.

Monday, May 6, 2013

The Little Things

Well, it’s Monday and it’s been rainy here in our neck of the woods.  On a day like this, it’s the little things that keep you going.  Here’s some of what made me happy today.

Emilia was playing with her doll this afternoon, calling it baby and letting it dance and jump.  Then she suddenly placed the doll’s head against her shoulder and patted its back.  She kept it there for quite a while and gave it a tight hug.  This is the first time I have ever seen her express affection toward her doll like this and my heart skipped a beat when I realized that Emilia was holding and comforting the doll in the same way I do with her.  It was so wonderful to witness her engaging in rudimentary pretend and social play.  Made this mama beam.

Since Monday is salad night at our house and Rex doesn’t go for much roughage, I made him a grilled cheese sandwich instead.  I decided to put about two tablespoons of pureed yellow squash between the slices of bread along with the rice cheese of the same color.  I was hoping Rex would still eat the sandwich even with a hidden vegetable component and he did.  Hurray.

Emilia had the first part of her preschool evaluation today and she did so well.  She showed off many of her skills and was interactive with the people from the school district.  I was very proud of the way she handled herself in the unknown environment with total strangers.  I was less than pleased, however, with what our district offers for preschool, so the chances that we will be sending Emilia there in the fall are slim to none.  However, I still would like to access therapies for her through the district, so the evaluations will continue next week.

During the preschool evaluation, I learned that because of when Emilia’s birthday is we will have a choice to let her start kindergarten at age 5 or age 6.  For me, that’s a no-brainer. Of course, we will start our tiny girl at age 6.  This gives us two more years from this fall until we even need to worry about any formal schooling which makes me very happy.  By then we should have a much better idea about whether she can handle a conventional school setting or will be homeschooled.

One of Rex’s therapists had been out on sick leave for the last two months.  She was very close to Rex at the time she left and today was her first day back in the classroom.  When Rex saw her in the hallway this morning, he instantly smiled his widest from ear to ear, jumped up and down excitedly, and then took Ms. Kyrie’s hand to walk with her.  Of course, Craig and I couldn’t be more thrilled that Rex remembered and recognized his teacher after an absence of two months and that he was able to show his affection for her in such appropriate and adorable ways.

You know what, for a Monday, this wasn’t a bad day at all.  And why should it be when I have such blessings as these in my life?

Sunday, May 5, 2013

Orthodox Easter 2013

Happy Easter to the people of Armenia and Bulgaria and everyone else who celebrates this holiday today according to the calendar of the Orthodox Catholic Church.

We were fortunate enough to be invited again to enjoy the afternoon with our local Bulgarian community.  As always, they rented a lodge and brought on the food and fun.

The potluck dinner was delicious and plentiful, consisting of traditional Bulgarian Easter dishes like lamb, rice,  banitsa, lots of salads and sides, and kozunak.
Kozunatzi - more and more of them arrived later
I contributed hummus and tortilla chips (Rex loves that as a snack) and homemade lemon cupcakes.  I told Craig after so many months of GFDF baking, I wanted to concoct something utterly unhealthy and delectable, full of butter, sugar and wheat flour.  So I started with a lemon cake mix, but used butter instead of oil and milk and freshly squeezed lemon juice instead of water which made for some rich cupcakes.  The butter cream was prepared from scratch per my family recipe and I added lemon oil for flavor.  And then I mixed freshly grated lemon zest with sanding sugar to sprinkle on top.  That said, I will never be a good cake decorator because I lack all kinds of patience and don't enjoy it nearly as much as I do the baking.


Fortunately, there's lots of papery help from the store to make cupcakes look scrumptious.


We were so excited to meet our friends, the Van Roekels, at the Easter celebration again.  Their son Nikolas and Emilia were at the same orphanage together, so we are happy to keep their connection alive.  We were so impressed with how much progress both of these little ones have made in the last year.  Nikolas was very protective of and interested in Emilia today.  She also enjoyed his company, but wasn't quite as committed to the relationship.  Maybe she was thinking, "You're a super cool dude, but I have to keep my options open, okay?" Here they are playing:


As always, we felt so warmly welcomed by our local Bulgarian community and enjoyed the food, the dancing and music, the Easter egg hunt, and the company.  Nikolas even performed some Bulgarian songs with the other kids and Emilia danced along.  Wish the weather could have been better, but the wee Martinis were not deterred by the rain:


Our kids did great and lasted three hours at this very loud, very busy celebration, but on the way home, the peanut gallery was quiet:


I think an early bedtime might be in the cards tonight.

Friday, May 3, 2013

It's Crunch Time

Last night, the girl that would not even allow any solids near her mouth a little over a year ago, pushed a chair up to the kitchen island, reached for the bag of tortilla chips, grabbed a few and then:


Hallelujah!