Tuesday, March 1, 2016

Best Friends' Reunion

The day we met Ella in May 2014, she told us, "I have a best friend named Lilit and I want you to meet her."  The next morning, we had the opportunity to do so and it was immediately obvious to us that these two girls were very close.  We knew that their friendship would likely be Ella's biggest emotional loss caused by our adoption.  By the time we picked up Ella in October 2014, Lilit had been transferred to an older child orphanage where they would probably have gone together had we not found Ella in time.

Over the next year and a half, as Ella learned English and was able to share more about her life in Armenia, she continually spoke to us of Lilit, of her love for her, her worry about her health, the day they were separated, and the experiences they had together.  Ella requested we place Lilit's picture on the wall beside her bed and even wondered if Lilit could become her sister via adoption.

In January 2016, Lilit arrived in New York to receive life-saving surgery as well as a chance to reunite with her best friend.  Over Presidents' Day weekend, our family traveled to Manhattan to spend a few days with Lilit.  We knew that it would be an emotional time for the girls and that Lilit's state of recovery as well as Ella's loss of the Armenian language would complicate their reunion, but we also felt that it was important for both of them to reconnect.



Over the long weekend, the girls played together, did crafts, shared meals, scared nurses, handed out Valentines, took side by side naps, looked at photos and videos of their years in Gyumri, and spent lots of time beautifying themselves.  Lilit also confirmed many stories that Ella had told us.




The girls are shockingly alike in their preferences and many personality traits and solidly bound by six years shared in an orphanage.  We hope that from now on, they will be allowed to maintain contact, regardless of what the future holds for them, because the past and the deep connection that they have in common can never be forgotten or diminished.

1 comment:

  1. This brings tears to my eyes. What a sweet bond and so thankful you have been able to continue it in many ways. Praying for her post-op recovery and for her forever family to be found!

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