Saturday, February 11, 2012

My Budding Artist?

When you are parenting a child with developmental disabilities, you sometimes handle certain situations that happen differently than moms of neuro-typical children might do. That's why I was not a bit upset or frustrated when I saw Rex do this yesterday, but instead praised him and encouraged him to go on:
Yes, after weeks of working with him on coloring, these were his first independent, unassisted scribbles with a pen. Who cares that he made them on the tray of his high chair? All that matters is that he made them and I am so proud. A replica painting of Starry Night won't be far behind now, right?

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Leaps and Bounds

Today we had a follow up for both children at the International Adoption Center. The doctors and specialists there were extremely pleased with both kids, health-wise and developmentally.

Emilia now weighs almost 20 pounds. She has gained 1.7 pounds since December 20. She has also grown 1.5 cm though I think those height measurements aren't very accurate and feel that it's probably closer to an inch in height gain for her.

Developmentally Rex has made great strides even since his last evaluation in early December. But I'll give you the six month uptick for a better overview:

August 15, 2011

Personal Social Development - equivalent to a 6 month old child
Fine Motor ~ Adaptive - equivalent to a 10 month old child
Language - equivalent to a 9 month old child
Gross Motor - equivalent to a 15 month old child

February 8, 2012

Personal Social Development - equivalent to a 15 month old child
Fine Motor ~ Adaptive - equivalent to a 15 month old child
Language - equivalent to a 12 month old child
Gross Motor - equivalent to an 18 month old child

Everyone was just so stunned and proud of Rex's progress. Of course, he is still significantly delayed, but I know how hard this little guy has worked in six months home, even with craziness like surgery and a new sister thrown into the mix. Rex is a rock star, as our Ms. Rie always says.

2012 Bulgarian Adoptive Families Reunion Update

The reunion committee is hard at work planning a weekend of fun for (prospective) adoptive families with children from Bulgaria. The event is still four months away, but accommodations are booking up fast. The 8 deluxe cabins are filled with attendees and we do not know at this time how many of the 10 camping cabins are still available. Book quickly if you want one of those! RV and tent sites as well as hotel rooms are plentiful yet.

For more information, please visit: http://bulgarianadopteesreunion.blogspot.com/.

Monday, February 6, 2012

The Witching Hour

Do you have a witching hour at your house? A time when everything seems to disintegrate and you just want to pull out your hair and scream? For me, that hour is between 5 and 6 pm almost every day. Usually any combination of the following things are happening during this time:

I am making dinner or finishing dinner prep for at least two, sometimes three different diets.

Emilia wants to push her cart in endless circles around the kitchen island.

Rex wants to go upstairs and wreak havoc on anything that’s not nailed down. Here’s what he managed to do today during witching hour:


Telemarketer/ pseudo non-profit telemarketer or appointment reminder calls.
Today it was Mr. Chimney wanting to clean my non-existent chimney.

Emilia wants to hang on to my pants’ legs and be dragged around.

Both children are hungry and want to be fed at the same time.

The house is a mess.

Daddy comes home and causes great excitement among the kids.

At least one child poops.

Both kids try to climb into the fridge or freezer every time I open their doors.

Emilia is carrying one can after another out of the pantry if it is left open.

Rex tries to reach for anything in sight on the countertops and wants to place toys onto the (hot) stove.

Rex’s therapist is finishing up and wants to discuss her session.

I am sure there’s more and if I had time to take notes or type during witching hour, I could record the chaos more properly. Alas, I don’t. It’s all I can do to try and get through it.

The Sights of Yerevan

I have been meaning to share some images of Rex's birth city, Yerevan, so here goes.

The Cascades:

View from the Cascades:
Yerevan's most expensive shopping street. Few locals can afford it:

The Opera House:
Republic Square:

The Museum of Ancient Manuscripts:
The Genocide Memorial and Museum:
Hopefully I will have time to post more pictures from our adoption trips soon.

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Emilia - Eleven Weeks Home

As of today, Emilia has been home with us for eleven weeks. I can hardly believe it. Time is flying by and it seems like she’s always been here.

I am happy to report that Emilia is growing. She has a cute belly and some of the pants that used to fit her (size 6-9 months) can no longer be buttoned. On others, the legs are getting too short. She just looks sturdier overall. Our next weigh-in for her is on Wednesday, so I will share the new data with you then. She’s been easily meeting her daily caloric goals with purees and her supplement and she is now drinking juices, too. We are experimenting with fork mashed table foods at lunch. Some of it is a go and some not so much. We stopped giving Emilia the Prevacid, but are continuing with her iron prescription.

The most wonderful thing in the last two weeks has been the bonding. Emilia came to us with a lot of anxieties, traumas, and trust issues from the orphanage. When we approached her crib in the morning, her whole body would shake in fear and her face looked incredibly scared. She wanted physical affection, but could not quite handle it when she received it. Now, she smiles when she sees me approach her and sometimes even says, “Hi-ya.” She climbs up on us to cuddle and when I sit down on the floor, she usually runs to give me a hug. Yes, she has learned to put her arms around our necks for real hugs. At other times, she simply sits down next to me and leans her head against my body which is pure sweetness. We are just now starting to give kisses on the mouth which is still weird for her. It will all come in time. And when she feels truly safe and loved, she will just blossom beyond belief.

More parallel play?

Emilia still does some rocking, especially in the evening in the living room. Another favorite rocking place is in front of the dishwasher when it is running. I don’t know if it’s to keep herself awake or to calm down. I think she has been rocking herself for a long time because she literally has abs of steel. This tiny treasure is a brick of muscle. And she still sucks her thumb which is her trusted and readily available comfort. I have tried to give her a pacifier, but she will not have it. It must be her left thumb or nothing.

Emilia pushed her big cousin around the house with no problem.

She's not a bit intimidated by her brother's size and strength.

We did move Emilia into the kids’ room to sleep. She is such a restless sleeper, kicking her legs, making noises, shifting all over the place… none of this ever woke her, but it did the rest of us. So, Emilia is now sleeping in a pack’n play all by herself. She has done very well with this set-up. She goes down easily in the evening and wakes up happy in the morning. She no longer wakes in the middle of the night to play for a few hours either. Whew, we’re all well rested again.

These overalls used to be too long two months ago.

Emilia is a feisty little girl, a bit of a drama queen, who can climb like a monkey and will some day probably swim like a fish. She is sweet and cuddly and, don’t be fooled, she knows what she wants. Go Emilia!

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Rex - Twenty-Five Weeks Home

Today marks twenty-seven weeks out of the orphanage and twenty-five weeks home for Rex. Considering that I have been updating on his progress throughout the month, I think I can keep this post short-ish.

Rex is doing well and learning new things all the time. We have recently introduced puzzles and he is great at taking the pieces out and sure tries hard to put them back in. He can stand on one leg now, too, and has figured out how to push mega lego blocks together to build towers. His receptive language seems to be growing quickly. Just the other night Craig asked Rex if he wanted to go in the water, meaning take a bath, and Rex immediately grabbed his hands, walked him over to the kitchen sink, and reached his arms toward the faucet. He heard water and he knew what/where it was. He also frequently responds properly to our requests of “go get…” now. We keep encouraging signing and vocalizations and may try out PECS soon to help his ability to express himself. Lastly, I should report that we had our first tearless toenail clipping. I could only do two toes at a time and then needed to give Rex a tiny break, but we got through it well. Considering how great he does now with cutting his fingernails, I think we will soon have no issues left with the toenails either.


He is usually very kind to his sometimes pesky sister.

In nutritional news, lately Rex has been willing to touch fresh fruits to his tongue. He’s experimented with apples and grapes and he actually ate a bowl of fresh strawberries with yogurt on them. I call that a victory. He also had his first experience with lasagna and after some initial hesitation, ended up loving it. I am looking into more supplements for him to help his brain and his digestion (he struggles with constipation – tmi, I know), but I have to find some that are easy to take/give. Rex is not going to swallow a pill or anything that tastes bad to him, including artificial flavors. Suggestions are welcome.

Parallel Play?

He still loves to play on the stairs.

We also learned last week that Rex has been accepted into a private preschool for children with developmental disabilities. He will start there in the fall. It already breaks my heart to think that he will be away from me all day on weekdays, but it is about what’s best for him, not me. This preschool offers 1:1 and 1:2 instruction, OT, PT, ST, aqua therapy, ABA, sensory integration, etc. on site, and meets Ohio academic standards/requirements, so in many ways they can do so much more than I am able to do at home. The program is also very small and there is daily opportunity for inclusion with children in an equally small neuro-typical preschool class. They only had four openings for the next school year and we are so thankful that Rex was chosen to fill one of them.

Getting more handsome by the day.